If you tell yourself often enough that you are a poor server, a kind of hypnotic process takes place. Then Self 2 begins to live up to these expectations. That is, they are communications from Self 1 about Self 2 which, after being repeated often enough, become rigidified into expectations or even convictions about Self 2. As a result, what usually happens is that these self-judgments become self-fulfilling prophecies. It may begin by complaining, “What a lousy serve,” then extend to, “I’m serving badly today.” After a few more “bad” serves, the judgment may become further extended to “I have a terrible serve.” Then, “I’m a lousy tennis player,” and finally, “I’m no good.” First the mind judges the event, then groups events, then identifies with the combined event and finally judges itself. “It is interesting to see how the judgmental mind extends itself.
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